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Untangling the Knot at the Heart of Fabricating “Self” and “Other”

Untangling the Knot at the Heart of Fabricating “Self” and “Other”

Understanding suffering and its cessation calls us to investigate the knot-hard tangle of the self. That knot is held tight by thirst, by craving. When two or more are gathered, great forces are at work and we usually pull the knots tighter. But these forces can also untangle the knot.

As mindfulness and calm are developed in Insight Dialogue, we can begin to feel the heart’s release. When we see deeply into the suffering of separation and isolation, we begin to taste the possibility of true refuge in sangha.

The teachings of relational Dhamma point directly to this insight, and this insight requires the integrated power of both silent practice and relational practice. Cultivating sati and samadhi together in Insight Dialogue, we begin to realise the power of solitude and communion in our lives.

This retreat will take place in noble silence, with the only speaking occurring during Insight Dialogue practice. Free from habitual speech, free from online communications, supported by nature, we learn that space of practice that moves wisely between words and the wordless.

This retreat is recommended for people with experience of at least two silent retreats.

It is likely that this retreat will not be advisable if you have a history of any of the following:

  • Severe psychotic interludes or psychosis
  • An attempted suicide in the past five years
  • An active addiction to drugs or alcohol. A person with at least one year of recovery and abstinence is welcome.

If you have questions or concerns about these suggestions, please contact our Retreat Manager, Susanne O'Brien, by email, to arrange a suitable time to have a conversation. Susanne can be reached on retreatmanager@gaiahouse.co.uk


GREGORY KRAMER has been teaching meditation since 1980. He developed the practice of Insight Dialogue and is the Founder and Guiding Teacher of Metta Programs, offering retreats worldwide. He is author of several books including Insight Dialogue - The Interpersonal Path to Freedom and Dharma Contemplation: Meditating Together with Wisdom Texts.

Listen to one of Gregory Kramer's Talks given at Gaia House on 04.10.2010: Retreat is Part of Life: What Now? (42:02)

JANET SURREYJANET SURREY is an Insight Dialogue Teacher. She teaches Insight Dialogue retreats worldwide and leads a monthly practice group in the Boston area. Her primary meditation teacher was Vimala Thakar, and she has studied with many Vipassana teachers for over 25 years and has trained with Gregory Kramer since 2008. She is a graduate of the Community Dharma Leader training at Spirit Rock. Jan is a practicing clinical psychologist and founding scholar of the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute at the Wellesley Centers for Women. She is on the faculty and board of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. She is the author of recently published book, The Buddha’s Wife: The Path of Awakening Together.


Rosalie Dores will be an assistant teacher on this retreat.


Retreat Code = 18161

C = special criteria, please read the retreat description carefully

E = experienced

Tuesday 18 September - Tuesday 25 September 2018 (7 nights)

Standard Rate:    £392 - Please pay this rate if you can
Sponsor Rate:        £470 - A benefactor rate, which helps others to come here on the Supported Rate
Supported Rate:     £333 - Available if the Standard Rate is too high for you
FAB Fund Rate:     £196 - For more details please see the Financial Assistance page
Young Persons Rate: £118 - For more details please see the Financial Assistance page

Extending Your Retreat = £44 per night - Conditions apply - please see box


Retreat is Full This retreat is full - we are now operating a waiting list

  • To join the Waiting List, a non-refundable registration fee of £1.00 is required.
  • Please complete the checkout process and pay the registration fee.
  • Confirmation of being added to the waiting list will be emailed to you.
  • We will contact you if a place on this retreat becomes available.
  • Please apply only if you are sure that you will be available if offered a place.

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